In a recent study by TD Ameritrade, 57% of parents are willing to support their adult children even if it means taking away from their retirement savings, and 54% have had their adult children living with them for 3 months or longer.
Financial planners approach the subject of support for children in different ways. One approach is to have the parents document exactly how much money they are spending on their kids. Our approach is to really look at what saving will be needed to meet retirement spending goals, and then see how much is left over.
This is a difficult situation no parent wants to be in. This is a time where having a financial planner in your life is truly valuable. The financial planner can help take the emotion out of the equation, and focus on what the real effect the spending on your kids is having on your own financial life. Plus, when it comes time to tell your kids you need to back off your spending on them, you can just blame the planner!